Relationships aren’t always PARADISE

Negative emotions such as jealousy and insecurity, the commonality of skepticism/doubts on whether true love exists, the divorce rate in America, are all reasons that cause and will continue to cause people to immediately assume the worst from the person that they are seeing. These negative assumptions cause fear and distrust in relationships and are a common reason why relationships don’t work out. Depending on personality type, you could be one of the two:  someone who isn’t shy about their assumptions and ultimatley let these assumptions turn into false accusations, resentment, arguments. OR someone who quietly takes note of the situation, assumes the worst & let it build inside until they are filled with- guess what- resentment, distrust, and fear.  DON’T LET NEGATIVE ASSUMPTIONS CONSUME YOU.

some things that may help with your fears/worry

1st- Train yourself to assume the best. Although you may intensely care about someone, no-one needs to know what their partner is doing at all times of the day. To be honest, it’s just completely unrealistic, unsustainable, and unhealthy. If you are consistently worried about what someone else is doing, this is a great sign that you need to refocus your goals and what you want. He’s not worth the stress wrinkles or distracting you from where you are going. Focus on yourself, assume he’s playing chess or reading the dictionary not at the club taking body shots, and get some work done.

(At the same time, don’t let yourself become blind to OBVIOUS red flags and signs that this person doesn’t have the same intentions as you. I have come to terms with the fact if you have a strong gut feeling that something isn’t right or something appears to be off- it probably is.)

2nd- Learn to communicate how you are feeling without coming off as accusatory or aggressive.  Start out conversations with phrases like “I feel…” and go from there. The great thing about “I feel” conversations- no one can tell you what you are feeling is wrong, it’s just how you are feeling. If you find yourself having these conversations too often, it may be a good sign that the relationship might be more stress than it’s worth or you need to address your trust issues in private & try to retrain your brain.

3rd- Have a conversation about the intentions of this person  and see if they are align with yours. Recognize the difference between someone is using you to fill a void vs. genuinely caring about you.

“If someone cares about you/ loves you their actions will be consistent with caring about you/loving you” @brittanyrennerr on twitter.

 

Don’t overcomplicate things, focus on you. ❤

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Nail Inspiration

DSC_0254 (1).jpgDSC_0280.jpgSpring is approaching and what is better than a nail appointment to bring in the warm weather and the lovely smell of fresh cut grass?!

I LOVE the natural nails look and if I didn’t have the terrible habit of biting my nails, I probably would get a shellac manicure and be done with it. Unfortunately, for anxious girls like me  this is simply not an option. I decided to get acrylics on my fingers to lengthen my nails and asked for the coffin shape so they would look less blocky and more girly & natural looking.  I picked a transparent pinkish nail color with some shimmer to add some spice. Whether you wear a natural/acrylic nail, rock it with confidence & a smile on your face. It’s almost spring y’all we can make it through this winter I promise!!!!!

I always get french tips on my toes, definitely worth the extra 5$ 😉 Feet are pretty much the worst but when I have a fresh pedicure I always feel like a million bucks. My toe nail shape sucks so a solid color on my toes does nothing for me, therefore the french is my go to.

If you’re feeling stressed, over worked, or down a trip to the nail salon is a sure way to turn around your mood. Men love a manicured hand/foot, not like we do anything just for the boys but it’s definitely a plus. Make sure to tag/ send me pics of your beautiful spring mani/pedi’s. ❤

If you haven’t had a chance to check out my trip to San Diego, you can see it here!

 

Personal

I am not exactly sure when, but somewhere along the lines of this crazy journey called life I lost value in myself. I lost track of who I was and soon became someone I could not even recognize. It’s tough to say, it’s tough to confess to the internet. I didn’t value my time, my body, my thoughts. My relationship with God became nonexistent seemingly overnight; I had no direction and I was lost.

When you don’t value yourself or see yourself as someone of worth, you will attract people that are more than willing to take advantage of you. Because who in their right mind is going to love someone that doesn’t love themselves? Who’s gonna think the world of someone who doesn’t think the world of themselves?

We hear all the time, “The quality of your thoughts is the quality of your life.” But how can your thoughts change your life? It seems so abstract and impossible until you dedicate yourself to changing your daily thoughts. If this is something that interests you, I am going to list three books at the end of this post that have changed the way I have live my life, and increased my happiness by approximately 30 thousand percent.

It’s so easy to get discouraged and lost if you  feel like you have no purpose in life or if you simply don’t feel inspired to accomplish something, whatever that may be. I recommend you find something that sets your heart on fire. For me, my worst enemy in life has been the fear of failure. Once you conquer that fear and realize that the only way you will ever accomplish your dreams is to put yourself out there and just plainly, START.. you are one step closer to achieving whatever you put your mind to. If you are struggling finding your purpose in life or what you really want to do, I recommend you take a look at this:

IMG_4591-1.PNGCourtesy of Lewis Mocker’s snap chat @loopylitez  Worth the 30 seconds it takes to add someone! Basically, your purpose is the dot. Find something that serves others, you are good at, you get paid for it (you can monetize anything), and something that you love. He is SO incredibly intelligent and I have learned so much from his snap stories it’s actually insane. He also has a youtube channel here: Lewis’ Youtube Channel

What I’m trying to say, is fall in love with bettering yourself. Whether it be working out, reading books about your niche, studying for your classes, or all of the above. I found that working towards something that I want to desperately achieve has ripped the sadness/laziness right out of me. Decide what you want, visualize it, and begin to work towards its attainment.

“Just remember… your career, education, and money is not going to wake up one day and decide to leave you”

3 books I believe will change your life:

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie

“Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill

“Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Thank you for the lovely photography ❤

QUOTES THAT CHANGED MY LIFE

“God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God shall help her, and that right early.” -Holy Bible

“Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities That are required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from running tide the element it needs. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual. . . . Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude- the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high. We are gods in the chrysalis” – Elbert Hubbard

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving” -Dale Carnegie

“I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall pass this way again.” – Stephen Grellet

“Don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a long time making it” -Aubrey De Grey

“There are detours all over the place. If you don’t believe, who the hell is gonna believe?” -T. Pryor

“Having confidence in yourself is crucial. If you don’t have a strong opinion of yourself the people and the world around you will tell you who you are” – I. Thomas

 

Thank you for the lovely photography ❤

Saving Money on Gla$$e$

As a pre teen, I sat approx two feet away from the tv watching some of my favorite shows including  Desperate Housewives, Oprah, or Grey’s Anatomy (yanno, the normal shows every 10 year old watches, lol). I was always scolded by my family including my grandparents, siblings, and of course my parents, but I didn’t change my ways due to my lack of perspective of how my eyes would be affected in the long run.

Well anyway, I went from having great vision to very very very poor vision… I always wanted glasses in elementary school so I wasn’t really affected by this new change in my life until as I got older my health insurance got shittier and I learned the value of a dollar and now I dread buying new contacts/glasses every year because every time I go to the dang eye doctor my vision seems to worsen :/

Anyway, without fantastic health insurance, glasses can put a huge dent in your pocket. (bout 500 doll hairs dent)

A few years ago I was RELIEVED when my aunt introduced my to a website called Warby Parker where you can get eyeglasses  starting at 95 freaking doll hairs! Yes, including lenses!!!!!!!!!!!!

ANYONE WHO HAS EVER BOUGHT A PAIR OF GLASSES KNOWS THIS IS A FREAKING STEAL!!!

I’ve been a loyal customer to Warby Parker for the past 3 years and I have never had any issues with their service.

SOME FACTS ABOUT WARBY PARKER & THEIR SERVICE
1. They have a free at home try on, so you can decide what frames best suit your face, in the comfort of your bedroom!

2. They have a 30 day no questions asked return policy so If you decide that these glasses aren’t for you, you will be refunded in full!

3. For every pair of glasses sold, they donate a pair to someone in need

4. Right now they are partnered with Girl Up which they describe as “an organization that encourages leadership opportunities for girls around the world”

5. Their main priority is to serve you! Your glasses come with a glasses case!
Warby Parker’s variety is extensive and despite your style, I’m sure you will be able to find a pair of glasses that suits you!

A little bit about MY glasses

So, the glasses I chose were a tad more expensive costing me about 150$

The style I purchased this time is Lilia and I’m super impressed with the quality and durability of these glasses! The only thing I warn you about this style is that they are more of a dull bronze than a polished gold. This is me being a little nit picky, but I called them about this and the customer service was so kind and told me to take them to the nearest store and they would take care of it for me.

And then I took it upon myself to do some research and I saw on the website that they were apparently supposed  to be that color…..

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See what I mean? They appear a little more dull when they are on her face rather than the initial pic? A little bit? Oh you don’t? Well dang. Just a little forewarning!!!  In my option, they are not as bright as as initial pic!

Hope I helped some of ya out! Thank you for all the love and support!!!!

Click here to see them on my face

A few more links for ya!

Warby Parker’s Website!

Lilia style

SHOW ME WHAT YOU ARE WORKING WITH:PRE SPRING LOOKS

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Hello all my lovely ladies out there! This is my first ever look on Zsa Zsa Contour! Thank you so much for checking out my site, sharing, & supporting! I hope you enjoy! Constructive feed back is welcome! ❤

I was always afraid of flowy pants because I thought my legs were too short and stout for them (I’m only 5’6″), but these striped flow pants complimented my body shape greatly creating the illusion of a cinched waist/hourglass figure & guess what, even making my legs appear longer! A main priority of mine is comfort and these pants will stand the test of time, I might even go to bed with them on! 😉

I paired these outrageous pants with a simple black shirt, but you could also go another route with a white or even beige top with tan pointed toe stilettos to make the look more daytime-esque.

As for picking out a pair of shoes to go with this type of pant- I recommend heels to make your legs appear longer and slimmer!

Find the Pants Here!

Alternate Top!  (Another Top you could wear with the pants)

Similar Top! (Not the exact top pictured, but similar)

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This sexy/casual look is so simple and the play on colors compliments a tan complexion so well! I have noticed I always lean toward dark/more neutral colors and so I decided to add a pop of color to my wardrobe for this spring season!

This outfit is perfect for a confused weather type of day (chilly in the mornings/ warmer in the afternoon). These are my favorite jeans- they are so affordable, comfortable, and compliment your body so nicely!

I paired this outfit with a chocker that matches the jeans to tie the outfit together & bring contrast to the shirt.

As for shoes, I love these all white Puma’s, they  make the outfit sporty & fun. Although I have to admit I have a bit of anxiety when I wear them because I don’t want to get them dirty 😝

Shop This Look: Top!

Shop This Look: Choker!

Shop This Look: Jeans!

Shop My Look: Shoes!

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This edgy look is perfect  for the chilly spring days! It adds color and brightness to dull weather. It’s very casual and comfortable- my favorite kind of look. I actually bought these jeans at thrift store and cut the holes in them myself- there was no method to my madness I just put holes wherever I felt necessary.  I’m  so obsessed with thrifting and making store bought clothes my own!

Shop My Look: Hoodie!

Shop My Look: Boots!

I hope I provided you with some inspiration for outfits in this strange period of weather, make sure to tell me if you would like more posts like this & share me your variations of these looks ❤

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Coping With a Single Valentine’s Day

I’m sorry if you are dreading Valentine’s day.  BUT SORRY BABES, CAN’T RELATE: HOW CAN YOU WHEN THE IDEA IS REVOLVED AROUND ROMANCE, LOVE, FLOWERS, AND CHOCOLATE?!?! If I had to choose a life aesthetic, it would be revolved around everything Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day should not be revolved around reminding you that you are single, but that you are loved! If you need to be reminded- write a list of all of the lovely people you have in your life that you love dearly and wish them a Happy Valentine’s Day.

Take the initiative and celebrate Valentine’s according to  your own terms, not society’s.  Go out and buy yourself some cheap flowers, a stuffed animal, light some candles, FaceTime your parents, & read a good romance novel (the Manwhore series by Katy Evans is a personal favorite). I think it’s my inner passion for English that has caused me to be a hopeless romantic. And when I say hopeless, I don’t mean it lightly. Your grandmother probably receives more texts in a day than I do. Being excruciatingly single doesn’t make me sad or want to rush into a relationship that I wouldn’t put my all into and it doesn’t discourage me from believing in true love. I promise, love will find you- unexpectedly, and in God’s timing💜

If you are more of a movie type of gal, invite one of your single friends to see Fifty Shades Darker, splurge on an Icey & popcorn,  and enjoy your singleness together. I have been desperately waiting for this sequel to come out for two years so, to me, this is an ideal combination (favorite movie/favorite holiday).

Hey, why not take the liberty of taking yourself on a date if you don’t have one, put your best dress on, find a glam look- go ALL THE WAY over board, and post an instagram picture that makes your ex cry, BUT make sure to look fierce enough that he knows you would never respond to his inevitable “hope you’re doing well” or “miss you” text. If you have a newly single friend, make sure to include them in this one!

WE ARE INDEPENDENT, MAKEUP LOVING, FLOWER LOVING GALS AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH CELEBRATING VALENTINES DAY WHILE BEING SINGLE, YA HEAR!?!

But really Valentine’s Day is my favorite freakin holiday, and if you happen to see a dozen roses on my Instagram I totally bought them for myself- make sure to tag me in your single gal Valentine’s day post 😉

Photo Courtsey of Baby Girl’s,( Kylie Jenner) Snapchat